Samuel Shem and Janet Surrey, a remarkable husband-and-wife team, challenge the popular wisdom that men and women must resign themselves to inherent differences. They outline a program of dialogues that help couples move beyond superficial harmony to genuine connection.

"We have to talk." For many men, these are the four worst words in the English language. But it doesn't have to be that way, argue Samuel Shem and Janet Surrey in their path-breaking and practical new book.

Shem and Surrey use their popular workshops where couples speak intimately about anger, guilt, resentment, shame, and sex to explore the impasses that confront men and women due to the vastly different developmental paths that they travel. And we see couples bridge those gaps to emerge from isolation into mutuality.

Filled with moving stories and practical information, We Have to Talk shatters the Rules and proves that men and women aren't from different planets, after all.